People pleasing can be a defeating habit in a person’s life, simply because the act itself  takes your focus off what you CAN control, and puts your focus on to what you CAN’T control, which is somebody else’s happiness and peace of mind. Here is a perfect example to illustrate my point.

One day, a boy who just moved into my neighborhood decided to ask me out on a date. He really had a crush on me, and I could tell. However, I didn’t feel the same way about him. But I did enjoy all of the flowers, candy and attention he gave me.

At the time, I didn’t see anything wrong with taking whatever he was willing to give. But my grandmother pulled me aside and told me why it wasn’t nice to encourage gestures and lead a person on, especially when I knew his intentions.

Of course, I liked him as a person because he was so sweet. But the truth of the matter is, he was wasting his time courting me when I wasn’t interested. Although I could have continued to use him, I went with granny’s advice and politely told him that I could no longer accept gifts because I was not interested in dating anyone at that time.

However, we decided to be friends and did fun things together on occasion. He found a new girlfriend who truly adored him to pieces, and fell in love with her. The last I heard, they were planning to get married. The moral of the story is, he was a sweetheart, and deserved to find someone who liked and loved him. It would be selfish of me to stand in the way of that.

How to Retire At Whatever Your Age! Secrets Revealed! 
Amazing FREE 8-Days eCourse will Astound You and even Change Your Life, forever!

Make Your Wishes, Dreams And Prayers All Come True! Amazing rare eBook has changed thousands of lives! Download your free copy today and watch miracles happen. Learn how you can make your fondest wishes, prayers and dreams all come true with the magical formula revealed within!